Dramatic title, right? I thought so too, but it’s true. I really needed a life change in the way I took care of myself. As I’ve gotten older a lot of things have changed in the sense that I’ve aged, graduated high school, then college, took on more responsibility, started a business, work my butt off 100 hours a week, but somewhere during that time, I stopped taking care of myself and brushed off things like manicures, workouts, healthy eating, hair masks, me time, etc. as low priority items. While they might sounds low priority to you in the grand scheme of life—and they do to a certain extent, but stay with me—I’m going to explain to you why those things I stopped doing, are actually really important.
It the grand sense of life I believe in solid foundations. I believe in solid foundations of a family to support one another, I believe in solid foundations of a house to hold everything together, and I believe in solid foundations of a company—aka a boss or leader—to encourage, inspire, and keep things moving in the right direction. But before you can have a solid foundation of those three things, you need to have a solid foundation of yourself and that’s something that I was lacking. I have an amazing family, a wonderful husband, and a really great foundation guy for our home building business lol, but my personal foundation was lacking and a bit weak. Solid foundations aren’t something you build once and they stay strong forever, it’s something you have to constantly work at and maintain. I believe taking care of yourself on a daily basis will help keep your foundation strong for years to come.
A few weeks back, my foundation cracked, split, and crumbled. I couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t completely happy with my life. I have an incredible family, great friends, I own my own business that is prospering, I just bought a brand new car, everything seems great, but I realized a huge part was missing. I was working so much to create the life I thought I wanted, but I was neglecting my health and well being. I wasn’t eating healthy, I hadn’t worked out regularly since my wedding (which was well over a year ago), I gained weight, and quite a bit of weight. I truly just stopped taking care of myself, which in turn caused my confidence to spiral in a downward motion. And let me tell you, it’s very hard to run a business and a family with low self-esteem. No one wants to feel shitty about themselves. I was truly in a place I had never been before and needed to pick myself up and get the hell out of there.
I had my wake up call when I realized I hadn’t been in a swimsuit in OVER A YEAR, which might not sound like a big deal to you, but I grew up on a lake, lived at friend’s lake houses, vacationed to beaches quite often, and never turned down a pool party. I was subconsciously not planning any of those activities that I used to love because I stopped taking care of myself. It was like this weird whirlwind of a vicious cycle. I stopped taking care of myself, I worked a lot, and it’s like I stopped having fun and really living. I turned to wine instead of running to take out frustration, which really killed my metabolism and had my priorities backwards.
During the last few weeks I’ve realized the importance of routine. Growing up we’re constantly told that routines are bad or boring. For some reason, the word routine has such a bad connotation to it. As a kid, it’s constantly repeating a formula: you wake up, eat breakfast, go to school, go to practice, eat dinner, do homework, go to bed, and wake up and do it all over again. But as an adult, none of my days are routine. NONE. Everyday is something different, but that’s why I need my routine of skincare, haircare, my workout regimen, meal plan, etc. to stay consistent, so at least my personal foundation would remain strong. Shouldn’t that be obvious though? I thought so too. I knew what I needed to be doing but I wasn’t doing it. I think a lot of us relate to that. Most things are easier said than done, most healthy Pinterest recipes are easier to pin than actually cook, and most leggings are just as comfy on your couch as they are at the gym.
So how have I changed? Let me start by saying that I am THE WORST dieter ever. I have little self control when it comes to eating, I always eat too late, and because Brandon and I are so busy, it was way easier to eat out when we got off work at 8 or 9pm than it was so go home and cook. I’m on a new plan now, it’s not a diet but rather an entire lifestyle change about the way I think about food. I went pretty drastic, but I knew I needed to really make a change. For eight weeks, I’m giving up sugar, gluten (I’m allergic), dairy, and alcohol—minus 1 weekend for my future sister-in-law’s bachelorette party. We’re going glamping at a winery, so she told me I wasn’t allowed to be sober unless I was pregnant lol. Which I’m not. But I’ll give in that weekend to have fun with the girls. One of the main things I’ve noticed thus far when it comes to diets or eating habits is that it’s OK to get off track, but you have to be in the mindset to get right back on and that’s tough. It’s super easy to say fuck it and give up. It’s like we punish ourselves for failing and completely throw away the entire idea of getting healthy over one slip up. I’ve vowed not to do that. I’m not going to be perfect during the rest of these eight weeks, but I’m going to try my hardest to stick with it. That’s all we can do, stick with it, and don’t give up.
I’ve also gotten back to the gym 6 days a week and wow, what a difference that makes. I can’t believe the progress I’ve made in just 12 workouts. I created a routine that’s really working for me. I rotate between HIIT one day, arms + abs the next, then legs and cardio, and start all over again. In my first week, I lost over 5lbs. I haven’t been able to lose 5lbs in the last year, and I accomplished that in one week. It’s just crazy to me.
So finally, the point of this entire blog post. I’m super excited to share this journey with you guys. I’m going to start sharing tips and tricks that help me the most. I’m also going to start sharing my quick and easy recipes. It will be a mix of stuff I’ve tried from Pinterest, Paelo, Whole30, and the Tone It Up girls, but I’ll be super honest with what works and what doesn’t. I’m finally putting in a lot of effort to get my ass in gear and would love to share the things that helped me that most…Like eating 10 calorie, sugar-free Jello when I think my dramatic ass is going to die from no sugar or dessert, or that if you give up sugar, you should expect headaches and insomnia so keep Ibuprofen close, or how hydration plays such a huge role in your metabolism, or that the first sign of dehydration is actually to feel hungry. There are so many things I’ve learned so far that I didn’t know, and it was like this weird epiphany that connects the dots of healthy eating. Fitness and eating can be so complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ll dumb it down for you.